A Face in the Crowd
You may remember a Seinfeld episode in which Elaine proposes everyone in New York wear a name tag. The idea is laughed off and, in fact, upends a mayoral election. But I say, not so fast. Maybe that idea has its merits. My reason for backing this bold suggestion? Personal experience. You see, there are a few people in my life — usually friends of friends — who I have been introduced to on more than one occasion, but for some reason, they just don’t ever remember me. Then the next time we interact, I’ll introduce myself again, and they inevitably say, “nice to meet you,” just as they did before. Maybe the person suffers from prosopagnosia, the inability to recognize faces. Maybe I’m just not that memorable. Whatever the reason, I used to get upset over it, but now I just try to laugh it off. I think my favorite variation on the "stranger that I know" is running into the person I've seen many times in public but in different settings. It's as if someone hired them to be an extra in different scenes of my life. One of these extras was so prevalent in my first few years in Baltimore, that I took special note. He was very distinctive looking with his thick swoop of hair, his fashionably tight clothes, and his tall, thin stature. I was with a group of friends and noticed him riding a bike down the street. One of the friends said, "there goes Visa!" What an unusual name, I thought, maybe he's foreign. "No," my friend said, "I don't know his name. I call him Visa because he's 'everywhere you want to be.'" Oddly enough, I never saw him again. I wonder what I missed by not saying hi and exchanging pleasantries. The truth is that we don't have anything to lose by just saying "hi," introducing ourselves, and maybe having a nice conversation. In classes this fall, I hope you'll take a moment to introduce or reintroduce yourself to your classmates - the ones you've seen many times before and the ones who are brand new to you. Don't be a wallflower! What do you have to lose?
Stay safe and healthy,
Tracy Jacobs
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